Dear friends, within the past year, a large number of Autostraddle writers and friends have experienced breakups of various intensities and complications — so much so that we have an entire Slack channel devoted to the topic. There is no shortage of emotions to process, including so many dark, disturbing questions about the future. Here are some of the things one might ask oneself about your breakup, as brainstormed by various thriving souls who are totally okay at various points over the past month or so. Okay cool.
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Many suggested I share this wisdom with the world here on Autostraddle dot com. So here we are, with this email that Krista wrote me during my Summer of Extreme Discontent which I still keep around because she was right and it was good. And your pain will be just a speck in your world. It is supposed to feel like the end of the world right now. That, my beautiful dearest Ris, is how you know that it was worth it.
Whether you have left your partner, or she has left you, surviving a lesbian break-up is hard. Sometimes it may feel like you may never recover from the break-up. But you will. These tips might make recovering from a break-up easier.
It was the dead of a New York City winter and I had just been dumped by a girl I had only been dating for four months. She dumped me over text message two days before Christmas while I was visiting my parents in Florida. I wrapped myself up so tightly in a cocoon of booze and hometown friends so I was safe from the sting of rejection. The pretty-strung lights are gone, rendering the streets barren, cracked, naked and vulnerable.